A New Year Resolution

A Season’s Greetings to you all! And a Happy New Year!!

I started thinking long and hard about the notion of making new year’s resolution come every December/January, and a couple of years ago I started wondering just how healthy is it to be doing this every year?

So I started asking around to get other’s take on this tradition, and here is what I have concluded to;

It is the time where we get to feel like we are leaving the past behind and moving forward. Where we get to feel like the time we got our first diary and the excitement of making a promise to yourself to write in it everyday. But after a week or so, life happens, you fall into some old or new habits and some of those New Year resolutions are put off on hold, until next new year comes along.

How does that keep us mentally or emotionally healthy? Let alone motivate us to become better and improve our lives?

Do we really need a new year to create a list? Doesn’t it become a tad redundant, if you list the same goal year after year because you weren’t able to achieve it previously, is it really a resolution?

So this year, I thought about emotional resolutions for a healthier mindset. Here are 10 things to try STOP doing in 2015 for a healthier you.

1. Stop the “show & tell” everything to everyone. The World does not need, nor cares to know our every move; leave some things to the imagination. Mystery is good. Step away from Social Media and know when to step away (especially when you are on vacation!) The world will go on, just as ours would, and being MIA won’t kill you. It will do you some good and may even put things into perspective.

2. Stop comparing yourself to others, or in other words, stop trying to keep up with the Jones’. What you see is NOT what you get, or even what the true reality of a situation is. That latest Chanel backpack that Jane got? It’s time to let those bags in storage come out for fresh air. We all spend way too much of our time comparing our lives to others; yet, we all forget that the pictures we see of others on Instagram and Facebook are simply a small highlight of their lives. And this goes for everyone, they aren’t the everyday; they aren’t the struggles or the downfalls of their lives.

3. Stop worrying about what others think of you. People will judge you regardless of what you do, so do what you want. There’s nothing wrong with walking your own journey on a path you chose to walk. You don’t have to do, like or want the things that other people try, love or desire. In the great words of Kid Cudi, “They gon’ judge me anyway, so whatever.” The flip side to this is, is that people are just not that into you, and the world does not revolve around you.  Think about the amount of time you worry of what others are thinking about you – has it ever occurred to you, that this may be exactly what those “others” are thinking about as well? So in hindsight we may be worrying for no reason! As Joey Tribbiani from FRIENDS would put it, ” It’s a moo point.”

4. Stop making excuses. We are all so darn good at it too. Putting things off and making millions of excuses. Whatever happened to the action of just doing. The more excuses you put out, the more opportunities you are losing along with it.

5. Stop doubting. Doubting leads to excuses, and excuses leads to no results. If you have an idea or feeling that keeps coming back to you, make it happen. Sometimes you just have to trust your gut. We are not born with instincts for nothing. When an idea keeps coming back, it’s for a reason. Take action and follow the ideas that flood your mind. Million-dollar ideas are a dime a dozen, but it’s only one in a million who follow through with their ideas.

6. Stop being a stranger. We are all in this together. When you give the world the best you have, the best comes back to you. Be good to people. Popularity fades, sincerity goes a long way.

7. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are not a victim; it’s time to get out of your own way. If you find yourself constantly surrounded by drama, you are the one enabling it because you choose to surround yourself in it. You will never be able to control what others do; however, you are in full control of how what you do. Realize that you can overcome hard times. Instead of attending your own pity party, you can accept the fact that only you can change your thoughts and experiences. You have the power to control your surroundings.

8. Stop trying to do multiple things at once. Even Superman and Wonderwoman probably have had their shares of issues while saving the world, but even they could only focus on one thing at a time. So pick one task or goal to complete rather than trying to do so many things and keep it in idle status for longer. The focus on one will give a great sense of accomplishment once it is achieved, and you can move onto a new and exciting task. No one else has it figured out, either. There is no guidebook or perfect formula, and often, life works much more as a process of elimination to figure out what we want – figure out what your priorities are.

9. Stop thinking money creates value. Don’t overvalue short-term benefits. Higher pay doesn’t equate to a job that will make you feel complete. I get it, we live in a much more materialistic and superfacial world, and trust me, living in Asia has opened my eyes to the extremities of materialism and superficiality, and while having the latest and greatest is great. Lets not forget the appreciation of quality versus flaunting the quantities. Choose a job that will give you life experience, more opportunities and tons of room for professional and personal growth. With passion comes great rewards and money is sure to follow. There is no shortcuts to greatness.

10. Stop feeling obligated. Don’t make decisions based on what you think you SHOULD do. And don’t take advice from people who don’t have to live with the result of the decision. Make decisions based on what you WANT to do. It’s your life and you’ll have to live with the choices you make. You don’t need to choose the mediocre when greatness exists.

If we are able to stop our efforts in one of these ten, I would say that that in itself is an accomplishment. Eliminating negative energy. We learn more and more about ourselves and the things that truly make us happy every day and the things that don’t. There are moments in life when everything is blurry and moments everything seems to be in focus – just like the lens of a DSLR, you have the power and most importantly the control to adjust your vision. And, even on those gloomy days, where it’s hard to see anything, we still learn to keep moving forward.

The moral of this post is that there is nothing wrong with making a New Year’s resolution because it is what gives us glistening hope and a magical sense of renewal and a chance to start fresh.

But rather than thinking of things to do for a resolution,  how about we focus on ways to change our mindsets, eliminate negativity and choosing a greater path forward. There is a reason we are told the best is yet to come!

What are your thoughts on new year resolutions? Share on the comments below!

Yvette xo

 

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  • Erica Elizarraraz

    Wow this is sooo good so on point and so well written!! You are amazing babe and I totally needed this! Thanks so much babe! Great advice to start the new year especially coming from you. Smart, creative, super stylish and beautiful babe like you!!! To a prosperous, happy, and heathy 2015 ❤️

    • Thanks so much babe @ericaelizarraraz:disqus I am so honoured that you enjoyed my post! Style is one aspect that I enjoy but writing is my other creative outlet that I enjoy very much, so it means so much when its coming from someone as kind as you! I love your blog and your style too! Seriously cheers to us for much happiness and good health in 2015!! :) xoxo

  • Olivia DW.

    Happy New Year beautiful!! I love this post because it really speaks to the negative energy that surrounds us that we need to rid of in order for us to truly move on. Great points and very well articulated. And I like that each point is relevant and relate-able to anyone reading and not blogger specific. xx

    • thank you! @oioli:disqus haven’t posted since the holidays so this one was long overdue. I am glad to hear what you have to say about negative energy. While I am no “fengshui” believing, namaste preaching spirited soul, I do believe in doing and treating others as you would want to be treated. Or in other words Karma. I do what I can to keep it general terms. ;) xx

      • Olivia DW.

        preach it girl @msyolee:disqus :-)

  • justanotherfashionblog

    Hm….. interesting point of view girl. I sincerely gave this some thought about the whole writing a new year’s resolutions thing and last year decided just not to because that doesn’t stop me from creating a list of what I want to accomplish. In fact, I find myself setting much more realistic goals because I write them down as I go rather than trying to predict and write a whole bunch of “nice to do’s” which may be more idealistic because we all like to think that a New Year’s resolution is a fresh start, but the truth of the matter is I think we just get lazy or like you said life gets in the way and we dive into old routines (good or bad). Anyways this was certainly thought provoking but I thoroughly enjoyed it.

    • thanks for your comment. I can see that you really put a lot of thought into my post. And I totally get what you are saying about creating lists, and I too, realized that creating one as you go, regardless of time, is imperative to achieving your goals. It makes you re-visit and cross-off the ones completed. It’s a great feeling to re-visit and check-off what’s been accomplished! :) xo

  • fabYOUlous

    Great points! I will be checking back periodically throughout the year to remind myself ;)

    • lol well I hope you marked it as a favourite then @fabYOUlous:disqus and thanks I am glad to hear that you enjoyed it :)

  • sostyling_sg

    Ay msyolee! welcome back lar! I was beginning to wonder what happened to you but realized on IG that you were on vacation! haha. I have to agree with one of the comments made below about this post being thought-provoking. Is it a western way of thinking? Because we never say think this way before. We always talk about New Year resolution and always repeat the same old. I hope you don’t mind, but I am going to share this with some of my colleagues hea bc this shined a new light in some ways. Thanks lar. Hope you had a Merry Christmas and all the best for 2015!

    • haha thanks! I just took a much needed break! agreed we always do this to ourselves and it leaves us feeling like we screwed ourselves over and it’s enough!

  • I have to commend you babe. This is so dead on and so timely for me. I don’t know how you juggle everything and still put out some amazing content. But your recommendations are extremely helpful to me and has completely hit home for me. I am so glad to have found your blog via IG. You are a total knock out and such an inspiration. Thanks girl xox.

    • thanks so much @lafashcurator:disqus i’m glad to hear that it was meaningful. <3

  • Meli-Melo

    lots to think about! lol I love visiting your site and discovering these types of posts! very well said girl! x

  • Lauren Goodman

    happy new year babe! cheers to a fab 2015 for you!! I’d say reading this post that you are off to a great start!! It’s funny how we don’t really give two thoughts about it until told or suggested otherwise. I was just reviewing my list and ended up crossing out half because they were the same as the previous that I didn’t have time to complete! lol procrastination gets the best of us! xo

    • thanks dear @laurengoodman:disqus

  • fancydaint

    really excellent points! never thought about it that way but it’s definitely gave me some food for thought. you seem to be off to an amazing start :) I wish you a happy new year and only the best in 2015! xo

    • thanks beauty @violamotarnault:disqus

  • LT

    so excellent! I really enjoyed reading this! great post as always and all the best success in 2015 babe! xx

  • carcia

    Yes, yes and YASSSS. I Totally agree with you babes. I’m speechless. Lol, for once.

    • thanks babe! YOU girls are totally amazing!! miss you lovelies much!! xx

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  • Amazing points! Great read! Thank you, for such an insightful post, that breathes honesty.

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    • thanks so much @RhythmandRuffle:disqus so sweet of you to leave a note! :) I greatly appreciate it! x

  • Diva JJ

    YESSSSSS I love each points and really, if we could all just emit negativity that surrounds us, the world would be a better place. Such a great piece!

    • thanksssss @gay_as_queer:disqus so true! if we can just take all of our negativity and use it for the greater good!

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  • dothedewS

    kind of late but I just wanted to leave a note to say that I loved reading this piece! It’s true and just one of those things where we get into a routine year after year and don’t really get around to. truly inspiring. xx

  • Olivia Aimes

    Very inspiring! Happy New year xo

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    • thanks so much babe @oliviaaimes:disqus xx

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