A New Year Resolution

A Season’s Greetings to you all! And a Happy New Year!!

I started thinking long and hard about the notion of making new year’s resolution come every December/January, and a couple of years ago I started wondering just how healthy is it to be doing this every year?

So I started asking around to get other’s take on this tradition, and here is what I have concluded to;

It is the time where we get to feel like we are leaving the past behind and moving forward. Where we get to feel like the time we got our first diary and the excitement of making a promise to yourself to write in it everyday. But after a week or so, life happens, you fall into some old or new habits and some of those New Year resolutions are put off on hold, until next new year comes along.

How does that keep us mentally or emotionally healthy? Let alone motivate us to become better and improve our lives?

Do we really need a new year to create a list? Doesn’t it become a tad redundant, if you list the same goal year after year because you weren’t able to achieve it previously, is it really a resolution?

So this year, I thought about emotional resolutions for a healthier mindset. Here are 10 things to try STOP doing in 2015 for a healthier you.

1. Stop the “show & tell” everything to everyone. The World does not need, nor cares to know our every move; leave some things to the imagination. Mystery is good. Step away from Social Media and know when to step away (especially when you are on vacation!) The world will go on, just as ours would, and being MIA won’t kill you. It will do you some good and may even put things into perspective.

2. Stop comparing yourself to others, or in other words, stop trying to keep up with the Jones’. What you see is NOT what you get, or even what the true reality of a situation is. That latest Chanel backpack that Jane got? It’s time to let those bags in storage come out for fresh air. We all spend way too much of our time comparing our lives to others; yet, we all forget that the pictures we see of others on Instagram and Facebook are simply a small highlight of their lives. And this goes for everyone, they aren’t the everyday; they aren’t the struggles or the downfalls of their lives.

3. Stop worrying about what others think of you. People will judge you regardless of what you do, so do what you want. There’s nothing wrong with walking your own journey on a path you chose to walk. You don’t have to do, like or want the things that other people try, love or desire. In the great words of Kid Cudi, “They gon’ judge me anyway, so whatever.” The flip side to this is, is that people are just not that into you, and the world does not revolve around you.  Think about the amount of time you worry of what others are thinking about you – has it ever occurred to you, that this may be exactly what those “others” are thinking about as well? So in hindsight we may be worrying for no reason! As Joey Tribbiani from FRIENDS would put it, ” It’s a moo point.”

4. Stop making excuses. We are all so darn good at it too. Putting things off and making millions of excuses. Whatever happened to the action of just doing. The more excuses you put out, the more opportunities you are losing along with it.

5. Stop doubting. Doubting leads to excuses, and excuses leads to no results. If you have an idea or feeling that keeps coming back to you, make it happen. Sometimes you just have to trust your gut. We are not born with instincts for nothing. When an idea keeps coming back, it’s for a reason. Take action and follow the ideas that flood your mind. Million-dollar ideas are a dime a dozen, but it’s only one in a million who follow through with their ideas.

6. Stop being a stranger. We are all in this together. When you give the world the best you have, the best comes back to you. Be good to people. Popularity fades, sincerity goes a long way.

7. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are not a victim; it’s time to get out of your own way. If you find yourself constantly surrounded by drama, you are the one enabling it because you choose to surround yourself in it. You will never be able to control what others do; however, you are in full control of how what you do. Realize that you can overcome hard times. Instead of attending your own pity party, you can accept the fact that only you can change your thoughts and experiences. You have the power to control your surroundings.

8. Stop trying to do multiple things at once. Even Superman and Wonderwoman probably have had their shares of issues while saving the world, but even they could only focus on one thing at a time. So pick one task or goal to complete rather than trying to do so many things and keep it in idle status for longer. The focus on one will give a great sense of accomplishment once it is achieved, and you can move onto a new and exciting task. No one else has it figured out, either. There is no guidebook or perfect formula, and often, life works much more as a process of elimination to figure out what we want – figure out what your priorities are.

9. Stop thinking money creates value. Don’t overvalue short-term benefits. Higher pay doesn’t equate to a job that will make you feel complete. I get it, we live in a much more materialistic and superfacial world, and trust me, living in Asia has opened my eyes to the extremities of materialism and superficiality, and while having the latest and greatest is great. Lets not forget the appreciation of quality versus flaunting the quantities. Choose a job that will give you life experience, more opportunities and tons of room for professional and personal growth. With passion comes great rewards and money is sure to follow. There is no shortcuts to greatness.

10. Stop feeling obligated. Don’t make decisions based on what you think you SHOULD do. And don’t take advice from people who don’t have to live with the result of the decision. Make decisions based on what you WANT to do. It’s your life and you’ll have to live with the choices you make. You don’t need to choose the mediocre when greatness exists.

If we are able to stop our efforts in one of these ten, I would say that that in itself is an accomplishment. Eliminating negative energy. We learn more and more about ourselves and the things that truly make us happy every day and the things that don’t. There are moments in life when everything is blurry and moments everything seems to be in focus – just like the lens of a DSLR, you have the power and most importantly the control to adjust your vision. And, even on those gloomy days, where it’s hard to see anything, we still learn to keep moving forward.

The moral of this post is that there is nothing wrong with making a New Year’s resolution because it is what gives us glistening hope and a magical sense of renewal and a chance to start fresh.

But rather than thinking of things to do for a resolution,  how about we focus on ways to change our mindsets, eliminate negativity and choosing a greater path forward. There is a reason we are told the best is yet to come!

What are your thoughts on new year resolutions? Share on the comments below!

Yvette xo