Another Year Wiser

Or so they say.. and probably to make ourselves feel better right? and why not! Whoever said 30’s is a prime was probably because they were turning thirty themselves. I think age should not defy who you are, what you can and cannot wear, where you are at your stage of life. Have you ever stopped to wonder what you are really measuring up against? Why are you letting people younger than you make you feel old, or those older than you question what you are doing with your own life. People love to criticize others, rather than turn it around against themselves. Here is my ode to another year wiser.

Excuse my lack of post this past week, it was my birthday and while I make it an effort to be consistent with my posts, there are moments where you just have to live your life without posting everything online.

I noticed of lately that some of my fellow colleagues have simply stopped posting or have retired from the Instagram/Blogsphere world, primarily due to the feeling of obligation and less enjoyment that they once had since they first decided to launch into this web journey.

And I thought, using my Birthday, would be a good example. If you have followed me since the beginning of my blog journeys, you probably realized by now that I seldom post anything personal about my life. Ever since I decided to launch my style blog, this was one hard line I told myself that I would not cross. Every now and then you will get glimpses of my husband in my photos, but that’s really it. I am no Kardashian, nor is this some reality TV, and these self-proclaimed YouTube stars still freak me out.

There are things that are okay to talk about and share with the rest of the world, because lets face it, your friends on Facebook could probably careless about what you are eating or what your view from where you stand looks like right this very second – but your followers on Instagram, may. But these are two distinctly unique social sharing platforms so if you are using both for the same purpose, you are probably just annoying your friends with the same news, twice. But that’s okay, because everybody is doing it, and God forbid, you miss any happening status! And anything more detailed than your own crotch shot from a #fwis post, to getting your makeup done, and driving your car, etc., is borderline Truman Show creepy.

But I also fall into the grey areas of taking photos for personal memories versus work. But even as a Photographer sometimes I find myself missing moments or enjoying less because I get caught up trying to capture “moments” through my lens than my own eyes. It’s a sad reality but luckily my Husband just gets this side of the world I am in and is more patient and understanding than most would be.

I even had questions of “how do you continue getting inspirations/ideas for your posts” and I really have no concrete answer for that. But what I do know is that, you have to do it for yourself first. You have to want it in order to keep it going. And this is sort of relevant to anything going on in your life. Even your day job, if you make it feel like a duty, then it will always feel like that. If you enjoy it, then no one can say anything about it and take that enjoyment out of you. No matter how bitter or cynical your critics may be.

Having said that, while I feel sorry for my absence, I felt that, taking the time out during my birthday to celebrate with family and friends without the constant worry of updating my feeds, would be well deserved and excusable. But of course some photo memorabilia’s were captured to share post festivities.

We have a lot of white space in our flat, so my husband decided to have one side of the wall decorated with alphabet balloons, which I thought were so fun and so sweet of him!

And the heart balloons complimented our ‘LOVE’ cushions so delightfully!

I really wanted something festive and not something you can wear everyday.. although, come to think of it, I could probably wear this tulle skirt with a tiara everyday, but I won’t. (lol)

Something outside of my everyday monochromatic uniform, and since I am already outside of my ‘comfort zone’ I decided to embrace change and bring some feminine look to my birthday. So this maxi tulle skirt that I found via tutulepetite.com was perfect! And I just wanted a simple sweater, and nude sandals to keep the focus on the tulle.

And this brings me back to my first point, on why every passing year means becoming wiser. If you take the time to reflect what you have accomplished to date, your growing pains and lessons learned can only help you become wiser.

While there are some things age make easier physically, mentally and emotionally, this should not defy who you are. Don’t let numbers tie you down, it is another form of excuse preventing you from doing what you wanted to do. I think the older you get, the more opportunity you get since you have the liberty than when you were young. So thirties are definitely your self discovery stage, where you get to learn so much about yourself, what your wants are, where you want to be, what you want to do with your life. You get some sort of direction. And forties is your prime, where you get to truly enjoy whatever it is you discover and pursue. Even up until your twenties you are still trying to graduate, find a job, pay off student loans, date, network, etc., so you never get to truly feel “free” but in your thirties you get a new form of freedom, as there is a slightly more mature and refined you from your twenties. The only difference is, is there are early bloomers and late bloomers on how soon or late you come to achieving your goals.

Just remember one thing, no matter your age, it is just a numbers game, whatever you feel  that you missed out on is never too late. People achieve things in their fifties and sixties. So live and learn and don’t forget to enjoy it along the way!

Happy Birthday to all fellow Scorpios!

Do you ever feel like you use age as means of an excuse? What do you think it is about age that terrifies us? Share your thoughts below!

Yvette xo

 

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  • Olivia DW.

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY FABULOUS!! Hope you had a great birthday!! I love the photos!!

    But this post is so good! I agree about this whole age thing. I hate how people judge based on age. You can be fabulous at any age! My mom went back to University in her fifties, it took her 6 years to complete the undergrad program but nothing makes me prouder and she did it for herself. Not for her kids, not for her husband, and she finally did something for herself. And I can’t even describe the look on her face on her convocation. So happy to have dropped by to read something heartwarming. <3

    • wow! that is an amazing story about your mother’s achievement! thanks for sharing such an amazing inspirational story. – and thank you for the bday wishes! x

  • sostyling_sg

    waaaah! happy bday msyolee! it is truly a great thing discovering your blog. I quite honestly enjoy reading your posts as they seem well thouhgt out and written. You have a funny side that you exasperate very humourously. I hope you continue to do this because I enjoy visiting and look forward to your next posts! your hubby look very korean la! I still think you look very HK actress-like lol (IMHO) :)

    • thank you so much! haha oh god, I thought it was an Asian thing because I heard it so much while traveling to the different parts in Asia… I will humbly accept it as a compliment :)

  • fancydaint

    Yay! welcome back love! But I totally get what you say about Instagram and Facebook lol so freakin hilarious! So true about seeing double of everything, but what can you do! and the Truman Show point is too funny!! My thing is about YouTubers and how anyone points and records until they fall a victim of their own crime. It’s sad how we are getting our source of humour on the expense of unwilling innocent bystanders. There needs to be more strict laws about recording stupid shit and posting it. I swear people will do anything for their 15 minutes of fame.

    I hope you had an amazing birthday! happy belated love! xx

    • lol but it’s true. I think we all need to educate ourselves better on social media platforms and what it is meant for. whether it’s for personal or business use. and don’t even get my started on youtube and pranksters! It really terrifies me that we have come to this type of social engagement and humour. I feel like we have all become more sinister and cynical, and we are losing touch with quirk and dork humour. I say, bring back innocent fun humour!

  • those photos are so lovely! hope you had a great birthday! what a great photo! What a great post because I just started an account but can already feel the pressures of updating frequently and putting content and I am nowhere near your number of followers so I can only imagine the amount of pressure you or other famous bloggers go through. But I appreciate you sharing your story because it goes to show that you are just human like the rest of us! lol thanks for sharing xoxo

    • thank you so much! i don’t rely on or let the number of followers dictate who i am. I sometimes question the validity of some of those accounts myself because the ratio of likes vs followers have such a gap. and I am a realist, so while I humbly am thankful for those that do decide to follow and/or like, I do what I do because I enjoy it and if that brings enjoyment to others, then I feel like I touched another person. Just like how we connected right now.

  • Lauren Goodman

    hbd! hope your bday was special and from the looks of your photo it sure looks like it!

  • chaeyoncé

    this is so true! I think it’s a mind game that we play and struggle internally. We have been engrained since birth with age-stereotypism from our own parents and friends because this has passed through generations, and we sadly don’t know any better. All the “what do you want to be when you grow up” to “what’re you doing with your life” to “you’re getting old you should be getting married and starting a family” and all associated when you hit a certain age range. it’s a societal issue that we never give two thoughts about but here we are today addressing it on your style blog! I love that you speak from the heart and express articulately. this got me thinking that age is really a psychological thing in our minds, and whether you let it beat you down on your own game, or beat your own game – but the latter is not an easy task. Great read with some beautiful photos babe! Hope you had a fabulous birthday! xox

    • thank you so much girl! just to compliment your comment, my hubby and I were talking about how being thirty is awesome. for the most of us, we are settling in our careers, done with school, hopefully done paying off student loans, some of us even hitched, feeling truly independent and coming to a more genuine self-realization. I don’t speak for all, but at least in our case. So personally I am truly enjoying this age. :)

  • fashion2themax

    happy belated! hope your bday was wonderful! your photos are so cute! x

  • GraceNg

    what a lovely skirt! I love tulle and how it makes such a playful girly outfit! hope you had a lovely birthday! :)

  • dothedewS

    i am still very enamored with that tulle skirt!

    • haha thank you! I feel the same :) need to think of a new way to sport it!

  • Diva JJ

    beautiful photos doll! you are absolutely glowing! xo

    • aw thank you @gay_as_queer:disqus – I don’t know what it is about the word “glowing” but it makes me so happy. :)

  • stylebystacey

    pretty photos! the skirt is so pretty on you